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The secrets of therapy that will change everything.

Therapy can be profoundly life-changing. And I’m going to tell you the secrets I learned from my own experience in therapy, along with the things I picked up over the years while working with clients that have become universal truths.

I’m doing this because it’s knowledge I shouldn’t keep to myself. And if you use what I share, you’ll get what you want.

But it’s not enough to know these things, and I am the one who can show you how to get there.

Here we go.

The ‘shift’ that starts the change.

The ‘shift’ you’re looking for when you finally start to make the changes in your life will only happen when the pain of not having the life you want is greater than the pain that keeps you stuck and frozen.

This is true for making changes in relationships, career, spiritually, or with yourself.

Your therapist is your mentor.

A mentor is someone who has the life experience, expertise, and creativity to get you where you want to go – because they’ve already done the work on themselves and continue to do so.

Most of us have never had this type of relationship before.

If you welcome this relationship, you’ll get what you want.

Stop Self-Counseling.

Self-counsel is a guaranteed way to keep you stuck and confused.

Help yourself by finding someone who will give perspective and teach you how to think, not what to think.

You can either be a good burden or a bad burden.

A good burden means taking a risk and leaning into what therapy has to offer, which, frankly, is life-changing.

It’s recognizing that even though it’s going to be hard to be openly vulnerable, you’re going to do it anyway. And this will get you what you want.

A bad burden is what you’ve already been doing. Feeling like you’re too much or that you’re playing the victim if you get help, which is simply untrue.

The only way around is through.

This is probably the biggest lesson of all.

The best way to change your life is to go straight through all of the things that are creating resistance, like negative beliefs or past trauma.

But you don’t do it alone. You do it with someone who knows how to guide you safely through the process.

Any other version of this is an attempt to go around the issue. Let’s call this avoidance.